, pay respect to the privacy and the right of decision-making of adult children.
4.\tDon’t regard children and grandchildren as a center of life; look for personal social circles, so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma of anxious expectation and disappointment daily.
5.\tRaise a habit of writing, painting, exercising, singing to sublime your mood by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming across.
6.\tMore admiration, less complaints and appreciate what other people have done for pleasing you.
7.\tDon’t involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult children, this act just causes adverse effects in a bad circle and hurt your grandchildren.
8.\tDon’t cry over sickness, just go to see a doctor and take the necessary medical pills as prescribed, and be patient if failed to cure.
9.\tDon’t be skeptical to others too much, be grateful to the person who left around you, otherwise, he will go away from you too eventually.
10.\tParticipate in religious activities often, be stick to belief and take pleasant, optimistic attitudes toward the future.
一、不要再替成年子女担心，才不会碎碎念。
二、不要再将成年子女当成未成年来监护，以免招人怨。
三、不必事事都非知道不可，尊重已成年子女的隐私权、自主权。
四、不要再以儿孙为生活重心，寻找自己的园地，才不致天天望穿秋水。
五、不要逢人就诉苦，宁可写作、画画、练功、唱歌,以艺术、创作升华情绪。
六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣赏、感谢别人为取悦你所做的努力。
七、不要因孙辈和子女媳婿争执冲突，这样只会恶性循环，害了你的孙辈。
八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，领了药要服药，治不好的要忍耐。
九、不要疑心病太重，要感激还愿意留在你身边的人，免得最后连他也走了。
十、要经常参与教会活动，有坚定的信仰，对未来抱着开心、乐观的态度。
The Two Roads两条路
1.\tIt was New Year’s Night. An aged man was standing at a window. He raised his mournful eyes towards the deep blue sky, where the stars were floating like white lilies on the surface of a clear calm lake. Then he cast them on the earth, where few more hopeless people than himself now moved towards their certain goal—the tomb. He had already passed sixty of the stages leading to it, and he had brought from his journey nothing but errors and remorse.