12.\tWhatever, it’s clear that words like lonely, shy, and insecure no longer apply to all. Fully half the women in our times, including me, say we are happier than we’ve ever been, at least while working and especially at the time we see and feel our careers progressing. Are we sad now and then? Sure—aren’t we all? Do we occasionally lose sleep worrying about the future? Yes, and with good reason: being a single older woman comes with its own economic challenges. But that doesn’t stop the majority from believing that midlife offers an opportunity for growth, for learning, and the chance to do the things we’ve always wanted to do. We even have the chance to do things outside of the confines, restraints and shackles of a relationship.
13.\tSo now, let me and all of you think again, do we really have “No Life”? I have some benefits that many married housewives can’t share. Also, are we, the single “No Lifers”, the ones who have created cages or limitations for ourselves? If so, it’s in our hands to set ourselves free, to give ourselves “A Life”, and not be so controlled by the expectations of society, work, family and friends who patronize us into thinking and believing that we have “No Life”.
14.\tAm I desperate to find a mate? Given the option, I wouldn’t mind a committed relationship with a cuddly, caring partner—preferably someone with minimal emotional baggage and the kind of income to support a nice summer house.
15.\tI do not feel like dating at times, just simply because I am not interested in dating or being in a romantic relationship with bald guys unless I meet someone really interesting. It requires a philosophical balance between putting on a game face on Saturday night and not getting stressed if nothing develops.
16.\tAm I lonely? I confess, yes I am, but everyone is lonely sometimes—even married people. But I actually enjoy my solitude while it could more or less balance my stressful feeling. Living alone can be lonely f