a single older woman.
8.\tSometimes I am a lonely woman.
9.\tI ask myself is that true? Am I old, single and lonely?
10.\tThere are far too many compatriots in the same boat with me. What else can I say to you to convince you otherwise? Sometimes I can not even convince myself that I’m a success in someway—we are lonely, we long for love, we are terribly afraid of dying destitute. When Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the University of California, Santa Barbara, and author of the book Singled Out (St. Martin’s Press, 2006), asked 950 college students to describe married people, they used words like “happy, loving, secure, stable, and kind.” The descriptions of singles, on the other hand, included “lonely, shy, unhappy, insecure, inflexible, and stubborn”. “My goodness, am I one of them?” I screamed and could not help asking myself this question. Mind you, nearly more then 50% of my friends who are far beyond their nubile age are still unmarried. There are several reasons for this; career women marry later; the divorce rate is high for many reasons, including pressure of work; little time and mood to share your darling’s romance; no emotion to release pressure from your hubby as you may also be stressed; no time or idea how to make proper candlelit dinners and, wow, just too many to list here. By the way, not to put too fine a point on it, those women who are married are likely to outlive their mates. As a result, most career women are now likely to spend more years of their lives single than with a significant other.
11.\tWe singles are not birds of a feather. Is today’s typical older unwed female a lot like Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City’s free-spirited patron saint of the deliberately single? The answer: a little of this and a little of that, and in some cases, all kinds of excuses you could figure out.