nce？”
8.\t“The one with experience, “I said.
9.\tHis face crinkled 12 into a grin. “I would, too，”he locked his eyes with mine. “So in this marriage， you will be the one with experience. That’s not such a bad thing， you know.”
10.\t“Often，marriages tend to drift. They get caught in dangerous currents13. They get off course and head toward hidden sandbars14. No one notices until it is too late. On your face， I see the pain of a marriage gone bad. You will notice the drift in this marriage. You’ll call out when you see the rocks. You’ll yell15 to watch out and pay attention. You’ll be the person with experience，”he sighed. “And believe me，that’s not such a bad thing. Not bad at all.”
11.\tHe walked to the window and peeked between the slats16 of the blinds17. “You see， no one here knows about my first wife. I don’t hide it，but I don’t make a big deal about it. She died early in our marriage before I moved here. Now， late at night I think of all the words I never said. I think of all the chances I let pass by in that first marriage， and I believe I’m a better husband to my wife today because of the woman I lost.”
12.\tFor the first time，the sadness in his eyes had meaning. Now I understood why I chose to come to talk to this man about marriage instead of taking an easier route and getting married outside both our religions. The word “rabbi” means teacher. Somehow I sensed he could teach me，or even lend me，the courage I needed in order to try again，to marry again and to love again.
13.\t“I will marry you and your David，”said the rabbi, “If you promise me that you will be the person who yells out when you see the marriage is in danger.”
14.\tI promised him I would， and I rose to leave.